What bullying is not
Written by Renée Safrata - renee@reneevations.com, November 24th, 2011
Of course, there are times when people’s behaviours have nothing to do with being a bully. Instead, they’re simply rude and insensitive. If you do not see a video below, click on: show me the video.
According to our research, 91% of people regularly encounter these types of public displays of behaviour.
Ever asked someone to turn down their music or ringer? Their curt, loud in-your-face response may have more to do with their fear than with you. Don’t take it personally. Explore to find what’s behind the fuss.
When dealing with public displays of insensitivity, use these tips:
- Don’t rely solely on vague and prickly non-verbals. Your goal is to get the offenders to reflect on how their behaviour is obnoxious—not how you are obnoxious.
- Be gracious and ask permission. Ask for their permission to listen to your request.
- Keep your smile but hold your ground. Maintain eye contact, stay silent, and let them respond. Be assertive not aggressive.
- Accept a “No” and move on with your life. Unless the situation will continue for an extended period of time or your safety is at risk, you’re better off just moving on.
Next week, you’ll have a chance to let us know what kind of bully you’re dealing with at work. The remainder of the Workplace Bullying Blog Series will focus on examples of existing scenarios and how to resolve your bully issues.
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